There is an increased risk of abuse for Victims during a separation or divorce. Abusers realize they are losing control of the Victim so they may react by creating a honeymoon period to encourage the Victim to reunite. If the Victim fails to return, the Abuser's desire to maintain control over the Victim can cause an escalation of the violence. Victims should be alerted to this increased likelihood of violence during this period.

Many Abusers become very difficult during any divorce/custody negotiations because their usual pattern of controlling the victim is threatened. This can result in divorce cases taking longer in the Court system because the Abuser is attempting to use the Court system to punish the Victim for leaving the relationship.

Mediation between parents of divorce/custody issues is not in the best interest of Victims if the Victim thinks the Abuser will not discuss legal issues in an equal and cooperative manner. Also, Mediation is not a good option if the Victim does not feel comfortable in discussing the child's needs in front of the Abuser without fear of retribution later.

Attorneys representing Victims need to be aware of the danger of violence during separation and divorce. It is important for Attorneys to help provide safety to their clients through Orders of Protection, referrals to Domestic Violence programs, and other safety planning. An Attorney should also immediately attempt to seek economic security for the victim, so that the Victim does not have to return to an abusive situation because of no other option.